Why I Value My Parents’ Marriage

Why I Value My Parents’ Marriage

The pain was hard to bear that I wished they would just split, but it was part of God’s perfect plan.

I could think plenty of reasons why my parents are not compatible, and name countless experiences that made me discouraged on the value of marriage, just seeing my parents fight at each other and point fingers at each other, but as they say, it’s normal, and it’s a matter of whether you can endure it for long or you stop being married because the love is gone. What a total opposite of geniune love!

When the two decide to get married, they made a vow in front of the Lord and in front of witnesses that they’d love for better or for worse, in sickness, and in health… they married each other’s problems past, present and future, with the hope that their love will last forever! Then, all because of a trial, all because of a fight or a flaw in one another, the commitment becomes a grudging obligation, a rot to the bones, a great regret!

When you say yes to something, you forever live up to the decision, but some of us take it back so easily like “returning a child to its womb” something that excites us, something we value so much, yet we couldn’t take good care of the blessing that we try so hard to return to its original state, yet it’s so hard to bring it back to the way it was. Everything is just messed up!

How can I say things are going well when they aren’t? How can I say God is in control when you see things out of control? One thing He said, “Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.” Psalm 46:10, NLT

“For the Lord your God has blessed you in all the work of your hands. He knows your going through this great wilderness. These forty years the Lord your God has been with you. You have lacked nothing.” Deuteronomy 2:7-8, ESV

How can you be still in a world bombarded with schedules? How can you survive another day? But the better question would be, “What better use will I be for you Oh Lord for such a time as this?” 

When I realized, my parents are still there, fighting—not against themselves, but for their commitment to work, in their weaknesses, they were able to love, love us, by choosing to be with us, my parents have not encountered Christ personally, maybe, that’s just what I think, but choosing to be with us over clearing themselves of parenthood responsibilities, that is love in itself, but it can only be manifested, when Christ is at the center of every relationship,  then the relationship would be fruitful and worth going through. 

He’s not yet done with me, he has put me where I am now to be a light to my parent’s marriage, true enough, God works for my good, and I only need to be still, know my place in His will for me by trusting and obeying Him always.

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Living Life Better

Living Life Better

Wherever we are, indeed God gives rest, gives peace to those who put his trust on him, and those who make His priority their own priority will never be in lack in strength, courage and provision. 

Our strength comes from the Lord, our blessings come from him, we are able to love because of the one who loved us.

So many of us seek to be loved in the wrong places and wrong timing. We create relationships instead of nurturing ones we already have. Look around you, we have been blessed with work — a job were we can earn and have an opportunity to supply ourselves and our family, an opportunity to grow, to learn and take on higher ground, a family, biological or not, they give us better meaning in life, not all families are made the same, not all relationships are fruitful, but we can choose to rise up from our situation. 

Life does not guarantee a pain-free experience, we cannot escape pain but we can choose to live every single day better and stronger, and there’s really no other way but to hear and heed to God’s word day and night. 

Joshua 1:8, ESV “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.”

Hebrews 4:12 “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”

Forgetting the Ugly Truth and Pressing On to the New Truth

Forgetting the Ugly Truth and Pressing On to the New Truth

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you. Only let us hold true to what we have attained. Philippians 3:13-16, ESV

It’s hard to erase how you made people feel in the past whether its good or bad, but mostly it’s the bad memories that old peers identify you with. This shouldn’t worry you because they’re not really friends, but if this still bothers you at all, then something in you needs to change.

We can choose to live by the label people perceive us to be or forget what they say and put on a new identity that is a Christ-like self. 

Easier said than done. Admittedly, I also have a problem with old peers in school from grade school to college who have hurt me in some way, and I would associate them as “bully” or “mean” when I was a child, which is a sign of immaturity that I carried by default every time I see the person.  Similar to this situation, I believe most Christians have a difficult time putting on Christ because they are preoccupied with the ugly past whether consciously or unconsciously. I wouldn’t blame it on ourselves though, because it is only by the grace of God that we surrender these hurt daily to God until we arrive at a point of maturity which I would say could only be achieved once we are with Christ, but that doesn’t mean we should ignore our calling to be like Christ every single day. Yup, this is our calling. We were created in the image and likeness of God, but sin separated us temporarily from God, yet God made a way for us to go back to him, and He did that by showing us perfect love — sending His only son, Jesus to serve us by wiping out our sin once and for all through the shedding of his blood. What great love!

Most Christians desire Him more, most pray for hunger for His purpose and a teachable spirit, but we cannot obtain this unless we decide to do what’s right in His eyes every single day, and this pattern is something that develops our maturity as Christians.

Forgetting What Lies Behind

Are you ready to let go of the past? Are you willing to give up all you have for Jesus? Really?

Straining Forward to What Lies Ahead

Are you ready to commit to the Lord all your work? 

Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the Lord and your plans will be established.”

Press On Toward the Goal

Will you continue to run with endurance with Jesus in all kinds of temptation, failure, misunderstanding, disappointments, pain, grief, happiness & abundance that you will face in life? 

Will you hold on to the new truth?

2 Corinthians 5:17: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

Continue the race for the eternal prize, a new life with Jesus with zero suffering and full of love and abundance of his glorious riches. 

Overwhelmed by His Love

Overwhelmed by His Love

It’s a different thing to be overwhelmed with blessings and to be overwhelmed by His love.

We seek out a lot of things in our lifetime that can be too hard to attain because we believe too much in our own strength. Too many times, the only thing getting behind our purpose is our own plan to succeed, to prosper and to manage what we have with something that isn’t for us to keep. It could be abilities, strengths, relationships, aspirations and finances. What if God asked you to surrender those? Do you truly believe that everything belongs to God and He will take care of you?

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5: 6 – 7, NKJV

I remember my last job interview at an aviation industry, they were looking for a digital manager who can oversee different websites and the branding manager asked me, “Why did you leave your previous employer?” I then answered, “I left because I had too much work to do even on weekends.”

She went on asking, “aren’t you paid overtime?” And I answered her a slightly different answer which made her laugh.

Then finally she dropped the highlight question, “How do you handle pressure?”

I said, “I pray because there are some things you can’t control, so for things beyond your control, leave it to God.”

At that time, it felt like I was ministering to her when in fact I was ministering to myself. At work I was taught to believe in myself, but then I realized, I couldn’t even trust my own mind, my heart, my decisions,  in everything, it must always begin and end with Jesus. 

The blessing of the Lord makes rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.” Proverbs 10:22, NKJV

Even as we suffer for things we strive to do, His great blessing is with us, Himself. His sacrificial love that made a way for us to know Him. I’m sure He is knocking on your heart right now to anyone who reads this. Maybe you are just scrolling through fb and can’t sleep, maybe you need terribly need someone to listen to you or maybe you just can’t rest from all the voices shouting into your mind. Tell you what, listen to onesoft  voice whispering in your heart, he is Jesus, Son of the living God who came down from heaven in order that you may receive freedom, freedom from the cares of this world, freedom to run after His will for you. God formed you, he knew exactly what to do with you, but because of sin, we became blemished in the eyes of a loving God, but His love never gave up on us that he sent His one and only son Jesus to die for us, so that by the shedding of His blood, He may claim victory over our sins once and for all! He is the love that casts out all fear, that is fear of death, fear of failure, fear of regret, all kinds of fear that we have in our hearts, therefore believe and be liberated from your bondage. God is with you, who can be against you?

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16, NKJV

“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” Galatians 5:1, NKJV

No matter what suffering besets us, we have overcome it through Christ Jesus who overcome death on the cross and has risen and seated at God’s right hand.

Let’s strive for the kind of rest Jesus received from the Lord by submitting ourselves to a life pleasing unto Him. 

“WAIT.”

“WAIT.”

“Let your heart hold hold fast to my words, keep my commandments and live.” Proverbs 4:4

 “Suddenly, I woke from a bad dream.” This was how I clearly describe situations that I just let go and let God be in control. 

Nightmares will always haunt us when we ponder more about it, feed it with our fears. I don’t claim to be the person free of fear, because it was programmed in us whenever we disobeyed, whenever our hearts do not agree with our mind, a case called neurosis.

What could have Adam and Eve felt when God spoke to them of their disobedience? Shamed and afraid for sure.

Their minds must have been playing with them and negative connotions like “We are done for!” or “this is all your fault!” Must have crossed their minds.

Let’s put the story in a different pace. What if Eve waited for God to arrive before deciding to eat the apple herself? That could have spared both of them. Then again, we can’t put the blame on the first human beings on earth for creating such chaos today, we have to make the right choice to press forward and set things right with God. Yes, WITH HIM. We can’t ever do it without him, we are nothing without him, we have to WAIT ON HIS GOOD PLANS FOR US. 

“Wait for” and “Wait On” are two different things. If you say wait for someone, that’s just letting the person pass by you, so you get to go with that person. Waiting On is holding on to what’s good, pure and lovely for you. Philippians 4:8-9, NKJV says, “whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.” God is with you all the time when you meditate on His good Word, and act on it. We seem to get a grasp of His Word and forget so easily when pain, struggles and disappointments or even desires and satisfaction beset us. This reveals how much of a hypocrite we are when we already know what God is, what His son Jesus did for us in the cross and what He can do for us, and still forget, doubt or worse, turn away from His commands.

Yet in our rebellion, he still finds a way to run to us, to embrace us just like what He did for Adam and Eve and their offspring including us. He gave us grace, forgiveness, abundance of eternal life even when we didn’t deserve it! What love would be so reckless and at the same time so complete that there is just peace in our hearts?!

God is love. God forgives. God saves. He indeed ran to us and embraced us despite of our shortcomings. What could fill your heart with joy even more? It is only through the love of God that we are saved and granted entrance to his Kingdom. 

Wait on Him, keep His commandments and live! Stay in His protection, A new heaven filled with bliss is coming down to earth and those who trust Him will inherit this.

Share the Word with love. Keep doing what’s right in His eyes while we wait on His promise. 

Strengths of True Leadership

Strengths of True Leadership

Everyone has definite strengths to lead, it is each one’s willingness to uncover the gifts or abilities we possess so we create a better environment for others to rise up and be inspired to lead as well.

Willingness to lead includes an affirmation to take on the responsibilities and the commitment to press on to whatever it takes to establish a better outcome of the relationship whether organizational or personal, that you agreed to be part of.

Ever had a toddler who doesn’t listen to your command, but copies exactly what you do without you even telling him to do so?

The same case goes to aspiring leaders in the field. If you are a decision maker at home or in an institution, you have probably informed your family members or colleagues of the rules, yet they still manage to break it, yet if you do it a hundred percent, with them observing you everyday then they’ll certainly follow what you do.

What are the strengths of true leadership then?

• True Leaders Obey Their Own Rule.

The golden rule for true leadership is once you’ve set a sacred rule, you have to be the first one to do it.

Let’s say you started a burger franchise and you imposed the rule that there must be at least 1/8 cup of oil on the grill only. How do you know if your employees will do it exactly as told? Will you be placing CCTV cameras for you to see what they’re doing? Heck NO.

You’ll have to visit them regularly, and show to them what they should do. The key to getting their commitment is establishing that relationship with them. If you’re a huge company and you’re at the top of the hierarchy, identify a key person who could become that powerful influence to them. It could be your company’s supervisor, team leader or the like. Train them to be people of integrity not just in the office but wherever they go.

• True Leaders Know How to Lift Up Another Leader.

Leadership Expert and New York Times Best-Selling Author Dr. John Maxwell says, “Great connectors find common ground and lift the person to higher ground.” That’s something we need to do once we have established a relationship with people.

It’s a bad reputation to see staff leave because they feel that they have not been appreciated much or they’re worth has been thrown off course, but it’s actually a positive sign of growth to see employees persevere and excel in their work then move up to a career or institution they desire in the long run because fact is, they are growing. You’re companies values have molded them.

It may be heartbreaking to see an outstanding employee go, but one thing’s for sure, true leaders don’t keep a collection of good followers; they reproduce great leaders.

• True Leaders Fight to the End.

This statement may sound cliché but it holds true for leaders who want to stay committed. The more you go up to your goals, the more challenges you will encounter. True leaders know that if they are alone, they will never succeed, but if they have the right mindset, knowledge, attitude and people behind them, they can fight to continue what they’ve started.

Leaders are true to themselves and to the people around them regardless of what situation they are in and the criticisms they receive. Will you choose to be that truthful leader?

Love is War (Part 2)

Love is War (Part 2)

Then he added, “Now go and learn the meaning of this Scripture: ‘I want you to show mercy, not offer sacrifices.’ For I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.” Matthew 9:13, NLT

Some of us tend to withdraw from challenges and commitments when we believe we can’t do it anymore. To simply put it, you quit.

What is your view of marriage? I used to think it was a “get out of the contract if you can’t get along” kind of endeavor, but the word of God proved a greater purpose behind marriage than simply just to “marry and be with the person you love.”

That greater purpose is to fulfill his ministry of sharing the the love of Jesus Christ with others that we encounter, but in order to do this, we need to be constantly be aware of His presence in our lives, so we can carry out the work that he engraved in our very soul together.

How can we do that if we continually create our personal desires? Maybe you’re feeling off track, too fearful to commit and get hurt or just persistent in believing your way is right, but know that Christ wrote this command:

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24, ESV

I’m not talking about how you get along with your spouse, I want you to know that everyone of us has been created with God for his sole purpose. As Christians, we have made an unbreakable pact with God when we received him as our Lord and Savior.

No earthly or demonic power can ever separate us from the love of Christ, but ourselves.

“He taught me and said to me, let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments, and live.” Proverbs 4:4, ESV

If we decide on quitting, if we are in the verge of giving up our identity in Christ, if we turn aside, know this that He has never stopped loving us and never left our side. If we depart from him, we will be lost in the unending flood of sorrow, depression, dissatisfaction, envy and desire for more tangible things that burn with just a toss of a match stick.

Do not let your anger, pride, personal desires or lust consume you, focus on Jesus Christ, who works for your good, who keeps your soul from perishing. Everyday is a war, and you need to stand tough and equipped for battle. Put on the whole armor of God, never underestimate the power of prayer, surround yourself with people who will encourage you and pray with you, always be in fellowship with the word of God every single second. Choose to do what’s right in His eyes rather than what your friends or anyone would think.

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“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8:31, ESV

“Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.” Colossians 3:23, NLT

Never give up on loving Him because His love for you never ends. If this means forgiving those who have hurt you, breaking free from a bad relationship, replacing a bad habit with a good one, leading in the ministry or doing spiritual fasting in order to listen more to God, go do it for His glory.