The pain was hard to bear that I wished they would just split, but it was part of God’s perfect plan.
I could think plenty of reasons why my parents are not compatible, and name countless experiences that made me discouraged on the value of marriage, just seeing my parents fight at each other and point fingers at each other, but as they say, it’s normal, and it’s a matter of whether you can endure it for long or you stop being married because the love is gone. What a total opposite of geniune love!
When the two decide to get married, they made a vow in front of the Lord and in front of witnesses that they’d love for better or for worse, in sickness, and in health… they married each other’s problems past, present and future, with the hope that their love will last forever! Then, all because of a trial, all because of a fight or a flaw in one another, the commitment becomes a grudging obligation, a rot to the bones, a great regret!
When you say yes to something, you forever live up to the decision, but some of us take it back so easily like “returning a child to its womb” something that excites us, something we value so much, yet we couldn’t take good care of the blessing that we try so hard to return to its original state, yet it’s so hard to bring it back to the way it was. Everything is just messed up!
How can I say things are going well when they aren’t? How can I say God is in control when you see things out of control? One thing He said, “Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.” Psalm 46:10, NLT
“For the Lord your God has blessed you in all the work of your hands. He knows your going through this great wilderness. These forty years the Lord your God has been with you. You have lacked nothing.” Deuteronomy 2:7-8, ESV
How can you be still in a world bombarded with schedules? How can you survive another day? But the better question would be, “What better use will I be for you Oh Lord for such a time as this?”
When I realized, my parents are still there, fighting—not against themselves, but for their commitment to work, in their weaknesses, they were able to love, love us, by choosing to be with us, my parents have not encountered Christ personally, maybe, that’s just what I think, but choosing to be with us over clearing themselves of parenthood responsibilities, that is love in itself, but it can only be manifested, when Christ is at the center of every relationship, then the relationship would be fruitful and worth going through.
He’s not yet done with me, he has put me where I am now to be a light to my parent’s marriage, true enough, God works for my good, and I only need to be still, know my place in His will for me by trusting and obeying Him always.