I’ve been tasked to write about money saving tips for millennial couples and I came across how millennials co-habitate and put a hold on marriage for practical reasons.
I have family and friends who co-habitate, I have parents who fight over money most of the time, growing up I had a skeptic view of marriage, but it all changed when the search for where God is became my main priority.
I walked into this church hoping to find answers to my faith. Nervous and trembling I stopped by the center to ask where is the service then I was led by the guard to Waterfront Hotel where the service was held. My heart pounded faster as walked closer to the huge doors, and finally entered.
Not much going on, since I was late, I listened to the pastor speak. Fast forward, it took a lot of courage going back month after month until I decided to make it a regular habit to attend service, but it really wasn’t until I decided to serve in a ministry.
Thankfully, with the help of a co-worker and now co-minister and couple mentor, I was in the position I was in at the moment.
It’s a funny feeling getting immersed into a culture of acceptance of different personalities and excellence in serving the Lord through a change in our own character.
The best part of it all, was seeking God in my hunger, in my weakness, in my days of singleness. It was the best year yet.
I also found a beautiful union between married couples that served God. It was’t perfect, but the authenticity of what they did, admitting they were wrong in the past, choosing to be better, and the most challenging part of it all, inserting service in a ministry in their crazy schedules. If we though we were busy in our single status, how much more when we are married with children!
The cream of the corn was that God totally changed my heart with my view of marriage, I once saw a disoriented union from other people’s experiences, but He made me see something more, marriages break without Him at the center. Marriages were meant for His glory, and that when He has combined the two together, He himself will provide and nurture it.
I feel that I shared His hurt when people especially in our generation make it an “option” instead of a command that “marriage should be held in honor of the Lord.”
Marriage is a part of God’s work here on earth, yet people are turning it around by saying marriage can work without Him, or union can happen among two or more people, regardless of gender and without marriage.
There’s no commitment without a deadline and a focus on one.
We always want to save up for the future, but if we don’t put a deadline to it, it will be just a task that is left undone. If there is no focus on one, then it’s not a main priority, then it’s not something important. We will just end up breaking each other when we are not committed to one and when we don’t set a plan for the things we said yes to.
There’s no love without respect.
How can a person say they love each other when in the first place they don’t respect God who made them? Respect is to honor God and everyone around you. Self-respect isn’t choosing what you want, it’s doing the right thing, even when it’s hard. You will reward yourself later with that.
In the end, it will always be our decision; I love how God gave us free will to make choices and the fact that he laid out the perfect guide on what we should do, and it’s all in His Word.
So what will you choose?